When Self-Disclosure Helps: Authenticity That Supports the Client
Episode 4
Just because you can share something doesn’t mean you should. But sometimes, sharing is exactly what helps.
Let’s Talk About It
When Is Therapist Self-Disclosure Actually Helpful?
Therapists are often taught to keep personal information out of the therapy room. But does maintaining professional boundaries mean clients should know absolutely nothing about us?
Not necessarily.
In Episode 4 of The Unmasked Therapist Podcast, clinical supervisors Kim Rippy, LPC, and Kaitlyn Steel, LMFT, explore the complexities of therapist self-disclosure and how intentional authenticity can strengthen the therapeutic relationship.
We unpack the difference between sharing something that helps a client feel understood and oversharing that shifts the focus away from their needs.
Because effective self-disclosure isn’t about how comfortable we feel sharing. It’s about whether that disclosure serves the client.
What We’re Unpacking
Finding the Balance Between Authenticity and Boundaries
In this episode, we explore:
- When therapist self-disclosure helps: How appropriate sharing can build trust, emotional safety, and connection.
- When self-disclosure becomes oversharing: Recognizing when our personal experiences begin taking up too much space.
- Keeping the client at the center: Considering the purpose, timing, and potential impact of what we share.
- Repairing after oversharing: How to recognize and address moments when a disclosure doesn’t land as intended.
- The role of clinical supervision: How supervisors can model vulnerability, authenticity, and thoughtful boundaries.
How Do You Know Whether to Self-Disclose?
Before sharing something personal with a client, consider three questions:
- Who is this for? Am I sharing to support the client’s therapeutic process or to meet my own emotional needs?
- How might this affect our relationship? Could it strengthen connection, or might the client feel responsible for my experience?
- What happens afterward? Can I return the focus to the client and explore how the disclosure affected them?
Self-disclosure isn’t inherently helpful or harmful. Its clinical value depends on the client, the therapeutic relationship, and the intention behind it.
Authenticity isn’t about sharing everything. It’s about knowing when sharing something matters.
Meet Your Hosts
Kim is a Licensed Professional Counselor, clinical supervisor, and owner of Keystone Therapy Group in Burke, Virginia. Her approach to therapy and supervision emphasizes authenticity, self-awareness, and understanding the person behind the therapist.
Kaitlyn is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and clinical supervisor at Keystone Therapy Group. She brings a relational, attachment-informed perspective to conversations about therapist identity, connection, and professional growth.
Together, we’re making room for the conversations about being a therapist that don’t always happen in graduate school—or even in supervision.
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